I find it difficult to allow myself an opinion, that isn’t because I’m weak or don’t have any thoughts of my own, it’s because I respect the right of others to feel whatever they feel. However, what I truly struggle with is when people demand that their opinions are heard and then get really unpleasant if other people share their own ideas.
I’m a great believer in listening to what others feel and then agreeing to disagree without affecting the friendship or relationship in question. It’s very hard when someone’s beliefs and feelings are diametrically opposed to yours, but as a human being with rights it’s necessary to respect the rights of others and reflect on their opinions.
Lately though on social networking sites I’ve noticed what seems to be a deliberate attempt by some people to be rude, not just saying “I don’t agree with that” or “these are my views on the subject”, but deliberate and outright rudeness on the walls of other people who didn’t ask them to comment. It’s something I just don’t understand.
I’ve done a lot of thinking about this because I have absolutely no right to close down their opinions and I wouldn’t want to be that person nor would I want those sorts of thoughts in my mind. The flip side of course is whether one should say or do something when outright cruelty or rudeness is involved.
I’ve concluded that accepting rudeness, unkindness, spite and anger is not good for human evolution and it’s time for those who believe in kindness to stand up and say so. Gently, firmly, quietly, but stand up for decent treatment all the same and mean it.
I’ve decided that no one is rude to my friends on my wall. That I will preferably use the option not to see people’s posts on my news feed but if they persist, and if they are deliberately unkind and rude sadly I will block them.
If we really want to move into the Age of Aquarius, the Age of the higher mind, and move away from the Age of Pisces – the Age of conflict, then we as human beings need to also move away quietly from behaviour that is violent, abusive, cruel and hurtful and tell the people who exhibit it that this won’t fly anymore. Do we really want the next generation to go through what we have gone through?
Think about this, if you’re a person who has been hurt by people demanding their rights to speak to you as they wish, then you can quietly stand up for kindness by saying “no” and walking away without ever trying to change their opinions even slightly. Hopefully the action will count for more than any argument or fight ever could.
After all, if we are to stand up for kindness then we need to do it kindly and with as little fuss as possible.
Wishing you happy days, peaceful nights, and kind people