Different folks, different strokes as they say, and like all things in life there are as many approaches as raindrops on a rainy day, and all of them have relevance – unless the approach you’re using doesn’t work for you. Let’s use me as an example.
I have many good friends who believe in the idea of setting an amount of money they want to earn and aiming for it. They believe that the focus on a specific amount encourages them to take the steps they need to take in order to achieve their goal. It certainly seems to do so for them. It didn’t for me.
For a long time I tried to take this advice and failed constantly. I knew the amount per year, broke that down per month, adjusted for quiet months such as January, August and December, and broke that down weekly. I never got anywhere close. All of the time I was aware that I hadn’t hit my weekly or monthly target, and eventually I forgot about it because I just wasn’t getting there. I felt like a failure.
Then I studied the Law of Attraction and I realised that this approach would never work for me because it put me into a mindset of lack. I didn’t have the money. I wasn’t earning the money. Therefore I lacked the money, the determination, the focus and the success. Big F for failure!
What does work for me is focussing totally and only on the work that I love and not worrying about the money. Why does it work? Because I now focus only on the love of what I do and the money is certainly following that. I believe that’s because I haven’t been thinking about the money I’ve been focussing on creating the links, the relationships, and the work.
Another example. All my adult life I’ve struggled with my weight, battling every day to keep it within normal parameters for my height and BMI. Then I started to forget about it because other fun, happy things took precedence, and I noted that my weight was a little lower than normal and holding very steady. However, something put my mind back on to weight and for the last 5 weeks it has misbehaved badly and crept up, dropped a bit, gone straight back up and so on. This is because no matter how hard you think you’re thinking about losing weight you’re actually thinking about being overweight, and the Universe is sending weight to you.
So the message is, focus on what matters to you, what motivates you, and what works for you.
If you just can’t work for money then don’t, work for love, and the fact that you’re working and charge money for that work will bring in the money. However, you will not go out and create work if in your mind you’re focussing on something that makes you feel bad for whatever reason. I have real problems in working for money, I have no problem with doing loads of the work I love, seeing the smile on people’s’ faces and charging a fair amount for my time.
When it comes to weight, ask yourself whether you really need to lose weight or an exercise programme, which would support your health, wellbeing and mobility (providing you’re sensible of course and if in doubt consult your GP). The focus on health, wellbeing and mobility might be better for you. You may have a dread of ageing physically and not being able to get about, or the desire to get into that little black dress for the party season, whatever your motivation is if you can’t control your weight then better to motivate yourself in a manner that works for you.
At the end of the day no one is wrong or right, but if you choose the focus of another person it won’t feel right and you won’t create the right energy for you around whatever it is you want to achieve.
Be yourself, do it your way.
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